Sexless Marriage Solutions - Should You Set an Ultimatum
2nd May 2008
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Sexless Marriage Solutions - Should You Set an Ultimatum
By Kate Dixon
One of the questions I get from people in sexless marriages or relationships is whether they should set an ultimatum to their partner, to either make the sex come back to the relationship or know that it will have to end. I always answer with this question: “Do you want your relationship to be over?” Of course, I know that the answer is no, but I still present this question because it’s important to understand that an ultimatum is a final recourse. If you set an ultimatum to your partner, you need to be able to act on it if it doesn’t work. Otherwise, there is no real point to it, is there?
But that isn’t the only reason why I dislike ultimatums. I also think that setting one is counterproductive because one of the main killers of sexual desires is stress (especially in men). When you set an ultimatum to your partner you’re exerting a ton of pressure on them to perform. Just think if you would be sexually aroused under such a strain. I know I wouldn’t.
So, I believe an ultimatum is something that you should avoid. What you should do is try and create a pressure free environment for you and your partner to work out your problems and improve your communication. If you do that, you have a good chance of getting sex back into your relationship on a regular basis.
The main thing to realize is that your partner isn’t doing this on purpose. The lack of sex is a symptom of problems that you share. You need to work together, and only then do you have a chance of solving them.
To read more about how to solve a sexless marriage, click here: Get Your Husband To Want More Sex. Kate Dixon is an author and sexless relationship expert. She has written a book for women in sexless relationships. To read more about Kate Dixon’s method of solving sexless marriage, go to this website: http://GetHimInTheMood.com
